Loveessence's Inspirational Couple: O & A

This couple really shows us to focus on the love we want rather than the demographic characteristics of the person that we think we want.  The two of them are from different racial, ethnic, and religious backgrounds  and decided that they were the only people for each other, despite societal pressures on each of them to date and marry someone from their respective communities.   The wife, who is a personal friend, is one of the warmest and friendliest people that I have ever known. She is pure sunshine and I'm so happy that she has found the love of her life and that she was recently blessed with a bundle of joy.  Single ladies, love is out there.

How long have you two known each other and when did you two know that you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together?

O&A: We met as sophomores in college (1999) when we lived in the same dorm.  We started dating in March 2000.  We knew we would be together forever in March 2007, and we were formally engaged in October 2008.

What do you love most about your husband?

O: I love the fact that I can tell him anything and that I can talk to him about absolutely anything.  He helps me work through and think through any situation that's important to me.

What do you love most about your wife?

A: She understands me at a fundamental level, so I can be completely honest with her.

How do you two maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship?

O&A: We had a long-distance relationship for 8 years before we got married, and that taught us how to talk to each other because most of the time that's all we had.  Now our communication is excellent and we can talk openly about everything, including our relationship.  Neither of us holds grudges.  If something annoys us, we tell the other to get it off our chests, and move on.  The old saying, "Never go to sleep mad at each other," works well for us.  Even though we have been together for 10 years, we constantly remind each other how lucky we feel to have the other in our lives.

What advice do you two have for singles who are searching for that special someone?

O&A: We learned from experience that the person who seems best suited to you on paper is not necessarily going to be The One.  Explore and enjoy people who are different because it's your shared fundamental outlook on life that will tie you to your spouse, not your taste in music or your hobbies.

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